Let me ask you all this question: How do you touch life? Well,
how do you? It is necessary to realize that each one of you touches life
in your own way. Suppose that you have some old-fashioned attitude,
then you touch this so-called modern life partly through it and therefore
will judge it as if you knew better. But do you see yet that each
one of you touches life according to implanted attitudes? Recently
someone asked me why he disliked a certain person. That I could not
answer. How could I know why he disliked this person? Later on he
said that he now liked the person.
One of the most interesting things in
self-observation is to begin to realize that you are always touching life in
a certain ingrained way—through attitudes and buffers, etc. It is an
extraordinary experience to become even a little freer from this acquired
way of taking life and taking others: Everyone, tightly wrapped up in
his or her acquired Personality, takes things just as he or she does every
day. However, with insight into oneself it is possible to take things in
a new way. This is one of the ideas of the Work. Must you always take
things and people in the same way? Can you change? What does this
involve? It always involves a change in oneself. But, of course, there is
nothing wrong with oneself.
How difficult it is to realize what the Work
teaches about this. Are you not all convinced that your views, your
judgments, the way you take things, and the ways you touch life, are
right? Yes, of course you are. To realize that you yourself must change
is an awkward business. It ceases to be a joke. Yes, the Work is serious.
It requires an inner self-glance—not once, but twice, and not twice,
but a thousand times—to see what this acquired person called yourself
is really like, to see that one is often a very narrow, biassed, or even unpleasant
person.
Here, however, we are all sure that we know that we
are not unpleasant people. The Work is to dissolve this really terrible
self-complacency based on pictures, attitudes and buffers. The Work
is to break up this maddening pseudo-creation called yourself—this
no doubt proud and charming picture, so deeply-rooted, to which one
is a prisoner, a slave—this acquired machinery that one takes as oneself.
I have often thought of what G. taught—namely, that many
moments of self-observation lead at length to whole photographs. This
means that the practice of the Work leads us to catching real timephotographs
of what we are really like and have been like over years
and years.
This can indeed be shattering. Yes, it is an awkward business
to begin to see this. But it is dangerous unless you know how not to
become identified, not to be negative; otherwise I say it is a very
awkward business indeed. This can happen only when you insist on
taking yourself as one person and when, therefore, you attribute everything
you observe in yourself to yourself, to something that you call 'I'.
The Work teaches that this is Imaginary 'I'. Of course, if you take
everything you observe as 'I', then you will be in very great difficulties.
But, as you know, the Work begins by teaching you very earnestly
that there are many 'I's in yourself.
Unless you can bear to realize this,
you cannot do this Work beyond a certain point. You cannot separate
from yourself and if this is the case you cannot really grasp the Work.
Everything will remain personal. You will be offended. Suppose,
for instance, you always identify with the 'I's that are against this Work.
Then you will suffer in a manner that is quite useless. Have you ever
really observed and got to know the negative 'I's that say all sorts of
things and often blaspheme this Work? Are you going to say 'I' to them?
All sorts and kinds of small ignorant 'I's try to eat us all day long. Do
you know what inner separation means? If not, then these small,
negative, ignorant, narrow, stupid 'I's will eat your Work force like a
lot of beetles and mice and rats every day. It is a pity to give them the
authority of 'I'—of yourself. You will then be dragged down from the
moment you get up in the morning.
It is really a tragedy to see a person
in the Work, who really feels and wants the Work, quite incapable of
realizing different 'I's in himself or herself. I say that it is a tragedy for
a person not to understand what the Work first of all insists on—namely,
that we are not one but many. If you cannot begin to see this, all your
work will be in a mess. Every one of you has many 'I's which are useless
and worse than useless. Everyone has 'I's that hate this Work because
they know they will have to starve and even die, so they fight for their
own lives and try to persuade you that they are you. If you say 'I' to
them, what can you expect? On the other hand, if you can see them
as 'I's in you that you do not care for and deliberately decide by
experience not to consent to or believe in what they say, then you begin
to enter the way of this Work, even if they overpower you often for the
time being. There is a phrase in the Work: "This is not 'I' ".
Can you
understand what it means? It is interesting to notice how much vanity
and pride enter at this point so that a person insists he is fully conscious
and knows himself and always acts consciously from a real 'I'. Of
course we don't. It is foolish to imagine we do. But it is intelligent to
notice that we don't. And this begins work on yourself. It is a very
extraordinary experience to begin to undergo this losing of one's
Imaginary 'I'. It means a loss of vanity. But it cannot possibly be
begun—indeed it is not permitted—unless your valuation of the Work
is strong enough to hold you up during this loss, this de-personalization.
The Work can only help you if you have caught hold of its teaching in
one point of you genuinely—that is, so that it can touch and hold you
when you have to begin to lose hold of False Personality.